There tend to be two ways that young women are taught to think about sex. I’d argue that neither is correct. They are:
- Don’t. Protect your virtue. I mean… it’s your decision. Obviously. But *shrug* do you REALLY want to be known as *that* girl? Do you want people to talk? I mean, I’m just saying, but it’s not very lady-like. You can have your fun but, you know, be careful. Men only want one thing anyway.
- Free love! You live in the age of women’s empowerment, honey! Don’t let anyone try to slut shame you! Do you! Need some condoms?
I wish someone had told me about the middle ground. I wish someone had ever had a sex-positive conversation with me that leaned less on the act or the societal expectations and more on the energy sex requires.
Stop, get your mind out of the gutter.
I don’t mean physical energy. Step your workout game up. I mean your spirit. Continue reading “It’s just sex.”